Just curious..... did you ever write that book? it is now 2013 and your post was from 2008. I am currently going through this and it is very hurtful since they decided to move right next door! Trying not to let their self-centered, selfish ways get me down but inside i am truelly crushed and there is no talking to them about it.
Just curious if anything changed for you. I am going through this right now. Parents retired and moved next door and it has been hell trying to get them to spend any extra time with my girls. I finally flipped out and yelled at my mom bc they didn't invite my kids out on their boat this past weekend but took their other granddaughter who was visiting. My kids saw them leaving and we're upset. I got mad now I'm the bad guy. There's no talking to them bc they always blame someone else for their lame actions.